Swallowing a drug of medicine, leaking mental illness
Swallowing a “drug of medicine”, leaking mental illness
Ms. Wang, a 15-year-old daughter in Guangzhou who was addicted to playing games online during the summer vacation, repeatedly persuaded her to swallow a bag of mouse medicine.
This matter is now raging. Why did Ms. Wang take such a stupid act?
In this connection, the author interviewed Yu Huihui, a psychologist at the 12355 Youth Help Desk of the Guangzhou Communist Youth League.
The extreme behavior reflects the mother’s “control desire” for her daughter. Yuhui Hui said that Ms. Wang chose to swallow the “drug pill” in an attempt to “wake up” the daughter who is addicted to the Internet. This behavior is inherently problematic. All she wants is to get”Control” of her daughter.
In fact, this kind of self-harm behavior is impossible to “control” this adolescent daughter.
What she could achieve was nothing more than to arouse her daughter and husband’s attention to her.
This kind of behavior often happens, and the root cause is often very different from the appearance. Some are because the relationship between the couple is rigid. The parties want to control the child through extreme behaviors and reach a “united front” with the child to “counter” the spouse.The root cause of growth is that everything wants to achieve its own purpose through “self-harm”; some come from the psychological vent of the client’s long-term “non-achievement” depression.
Similar incidents are diverse, but the commonality is the poor family relationship or the psychological problems of the parties.
Yu Huihui suggested that every member of the family should have psychological intervention as early as possible to understand their family relationships in depth and solve the problem from the root through family arrangement, psychological treatment and individual psychological counseling.
成人爱走“极端”是一种病态心理 心理学认为“极端心理”是一个人的心理失去了常态的行为，表现为容易走极端，或者极其脆弱，消极悲观；要或者极其强烈，疯狂冲动；Either extremely indifferent and indifferent; or extreme excitement.
The reasons for the formation of extreme psychology are very complex, but generally speaking, if the parties do not pay attention to psychological counseling and are not good at resolving contradictions, they will induce and intensify extreme psychology.
Psychoanalysis refers to the dual nature of man as life instinct and death instinct. Life instinct is a source of one’s strength. It strongly defends life and everything that represents life, often manifested as happiness, hope, sympathy, and love.
Death instinct refers to an instinctive urge to destroy and aggression in everyone, which urges individuals to die, because only there can be true calmness in death, and tension and struggle can be completely relieved.
This self-destructive impulse is weakened or changed direction by the instinct of life. If the power of life instinct is not enough to suppress or guide it, then the death instinct may be manifested by extreme means of “suicide” or “self-harm”.
When responding to reporters’ questions, Ms. Wang exposed her style of thinking and educating children from her “parent center”. She has been forcing her children to behave according to subjective requirements.
She is also anxious about the child’s online use, but has not been able to change it. Although she has also blamed the child, in return, the child has intensified resistance.
She was afraid that the child would not learn well and that she would be cheated.
It is not a scientific guide for children to go online, and I never thought of asking for help from experts.
Regarding interpersonal relationships, as her husband puts it, “Introverted and strong, as long as you give something, you will get nothing.”
These actions reflect Ms. Wang’s mental illness and ignorance of family education.
”Menopause” mothers must learn to get along with adolescent children. On the other hand, Ms. Wang is entering middle age and her daughter is in adolescence. Women in these two age groups are the most likely to have problems.
For various reasons, most menopausal mothers pay too much attention to their children. This is exactly the opposite of the child’s rebellious mentality, which makes the contradiction even worse.
Yu Huihui said: When a menopausal mother encounters an adolescent daughter, what they need most is mutual understanding and understanding. The simple method of stubbornness will certainly not achieve good results. “Waking up” the child by means of self-harm will only cause tragedy.
Menopausal mothers should learn to take advantage of the situation, ease their anxiety, use love to resolve these conflicts and confrontations, and focus on creating close mother-daughter relationships.
At the same time, the father should play a good bridge role and care more about his wife and children.
She suggested that parents should not blindly demand adolescent children according to their own wishes. Instead, they should think more about their children and be friends with their children in order to build a harmonious family relationship and parent-child relationship.
Educate children to pay attention to science. If parents feel at a loss, they should consult a psychologist for the first time, instead of blindly “harm” and avoid making people such as “women addicted to the Internet, mother anger swallowing drugs” and so on.Crying event.